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Men can improve their sex life by doing more household chores, study finds

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Whether it’s washing dishes or doing laundry, men are generally perceived to have a greater aversion to household chores than women.

But a new study suggests guys can improve their sex lives by taking more responsibility for chores around the house.

Australian researchers surveyed nearly 300 women in heterosexual relationships about their sex lives and who did the most household chores.

The more equitably tasks were shared, the greater women’s feelings of relationship satisfaction and, therefore, sexual desire.

The study authors say that “sexual sparks fly” when male partners shoulder a fair share of the physical and mental burdens.

Men can improve their sex lives by taking more responsibility for work that needs to be done around the house, the study suggests (file photo)

The new study was conducted by researchers at Swinburne University of Technology in Melbourne, Australia.

WOMEN DO 70 MINUTES MORE OF HOUSEHOLD WORK EVERY DAY THAN MEN

Women still do 70 minutes more of household chores a day than men, according to recent research.

Women in the UK spend an average of two hours and 49 minutes cooking, cleaning, washing dishes and laundry.

But the men devote only an hour and 39 minutes to similar work.

Scientists analyzed more than 200,000 people in ten countries in Europe, Asia and North America for the study published in the journal PLOS One.

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“Our research recognized the nuances of women’s desire and its strong link to relationship quality by exploring how fairness in relationships might affect desire,” two of the authors wrote for The conversation.

“The findings suggest that one response to low desire in women may be to address the amount of work women have to take on in their relationships.”

Previous studies have already shown that women do more housework and childcare than their male partners.

This trend has been exacerbated during the Covid pandemic, leaving women feeling “exhausted, anxious and resentful,” according to the authors.

For their study, the team explored how a phenomenon known as “mental load” affects intimate relationships between heterosexual couples.

Mental load, also known as invisible load, refers to the overall responsibility to plan and organize the tasks that need to be done to run a household.

According to a comic 2017Mental load is created when a man sees his female partner as the manager or delegator of all household chores, meaning “it’s up to her to know what needs to be done and when”.

Even when men contribute to the physical load (performing some of the household chores), the mental load (planning and organizing the execution of these tasks) may fall entirely on the woman.

According to the comic, written by French cartoonist and feminist Emma Clit, the mental load is borne almost entirely by women.

According to a 2017 comic, mental load is created when a man sees his female partner as the manager or delegator of all household chores, which means

According to a 2017 comic, mental load is created when a man sees his female partner as the manager or delegator of all household chores, meaning “it’s up to her to know what needs to be done and when.” “.

For the study, 299 Australian women between the ages of 18 and 39 completed an online questionnaire measuring relationship equity and sexual desire.

The questions included ratings of household chores, mental workload — like who organized social activities and made financial arrangements — and who had more free time.

The researchers then explored the impact of differences in relational equity on female sexual desire.

Overall, women living in equal relationships (in terms of household chores and mental load) were more satisfied with their relationships and, in turn, felt more sexual desire than those living in unequal relationships.

Previous studies have already shown that women do more housework and childcare than their male partners.  This trend has been exacerbated during the Covid pandemic (file photo)

Previous studies have already shown that women do more housework and childcare than their male partners. This trend has been exacerbated during the Covid pandemic (file photo)

Other relational factors also played a role – for example, having children increased women’s workload, leading to less relational equity and, therefore, lower sexual desire.

They also found that the longer certain relationships last, the more unfair they become, which in turn reduces a woman’s sexual desire.

This suggests that it’s not too late for men to kick things off in the bedroom by doing more chores, even if they’ve been with their partner for decades.

The research team points out that same-sex couples tend to have more equal relationships than heterosexual couples, although they only looked at the latter for this study.

These findings could provide a springboard for future research that goes beyond questionnaires and surveys.

Heterosexual couples can have a better sex life if they share the workload - not only the physical load, but also the mental load (file photo)

Heterosexual couples can have a better sex life if they share the workload – not only the physical load, but also the mental load (file photo)

“To translate our findings into clinical practice, we could conduct trials to confirm whether reducing women’s mental workload leads to greater sexual desire,” the authors write for The Conversation.

“We could have a ‘housework and mental load ban’ for a sample of women reporting low sexual desire and record if there are changes in their reported desire levels.

“Or maybe the women’s sex partners could do the dishes tonight and see what happens.”

The study was published in the Journal of Sex Research.

WHAT IS MENTAL LOAD?

Mental load, also known as invisible load, refers to the overall responsibility to plan and organize the tasks that need to be done to run a household.

According to a comic 2017Mental load is created when a man sees his female partner as the manager or delegator of all household chores, meaning “it’s up to her to know what needs to be done and when”.

When a man says “let me know if you need help,” he “refuses to take his share of the mental load,” the comic says.

Even when men contribute to the physical load (performing some of the household chores), it is likely that the mental load (planning and organizing the execution of these tasks) falls on the woman.

“The mental load is borne almost entirely by women,” says the comic strip, written by French cartoonist and feminist Emma Clit.

“It’s a permanent and exhausting job. And it’s invisible.

According to a 2019 study, bearing the mental load can have a negative impact on the well-being of mothers.

“Even though women are physically doing less laundry, they still take on the responsibility of making sure the detergent doesn’t run out, that all dirty clothes go through the wash and that there are always clean towels available. “, said the study. author Dr. Lucia Ciciolla, assistant professor of psychology at Oklahoma State University.

“Women are beginning to recognize that they still carry the mental burden of housekeeping even though others are sharing the physical labor, and that this mental burden can have consequences.”