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Household chores for children with ADHD: jobs that work


“What types of regular housework does your child with ADHD have?” Is it difficult to get them to do their chores, or do they like to have tasks set? “

ADDitude recently posed these questions to newsletter subscribers and received dozens of relevant responses. Yes, many children with ADHD are tasked with setting and clearing the table, washing clothes, and taking out the trash – ordinary chores with predictable incentives. But you also told us that physical tasks like mowing the lawn or walking the dog kill several birds with one stone – contributing to household harmony while burning excess energy, providing weekly structure, and keeping them healthy. boosting self-esteem.

Delegating tasks and enforcing the completion of chores is the tricky part for most parents. Provocative behavior, poor working memory, and a lack of time often delay or derail household chores. Here are the tasks you found most suitable for ADHD (and least), along with strategies to encourage successful task completion without epic battles. Leave your chore suggestions in the Comments section below.

Household chores for children with ADHD: what works and what doesn’t

“My 11 year old daughter has to set and clear the dinner table. I also put a stack of clothes that are easy to fold from the dryer on the sofa so she can fold them while she watches TV.. Every week, she goes out and brings back the trash. However, you should still ask her at least five times to brush her teeth. Forget to make your bed every day! – Mickey

“Our 8 year old has to make his bed and help clean the table after dinner. Sometimes it’s a struggle, but the conflict can usually be redirected quickly with encouraging words and rewards for doing chores.. Following a visual schedule worked well for her. – Amanda

“My 9 year old daughter has daily and weekly chores. Daily tasks, such as making a bed, are rarely done. On Saturday morning, she cleans the kitchen and the bathrooms. She wears headphones and listens to a playlist, and she has a list that she can check off tasks. She’s in her own world for an hour and loves showing off the checklist items when she’s done. – Anonymous

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“My 12 year old son loves having set tasks; it gives him a sense of accomplishment. He cleans behind him without being asked, mows the lawn in hot seasons and shovels snow in the cold. These household chores seem to really help her as she is active and outdoors. “- Anonymous

“Our 5 year old son thirsts for routine and despises change. Her job is to take our dog out, feed her and change her water. I know he works well when he lets her out with a minimum of disagreement, but sometimes I have to constantly remind him and he bursts into tears. He is also responsible for putting his used dishes in the sink and his dirty laundry in the laundry room. I rarely have a problem with him doing these little chores as they don’t require the commitment to let the dog out. – Anonymous

“Our kids empty and load the dishwasher, empty the trash, dust, do the laundry, mow the grass and clean up after the animals. We have a magnetic whiteboard that we put on the fridge with the chores for each day, which they cross off when done. Daily lists help them focus. Sometimes it’s hard to get them to complete the tasks, but we use the screen time as an incentive. ” – Anonymous

“It takes more energy to handle the task and make sure my child with ADHD actually gets a chore done, so my husband and I usually end up doing it on our own. I can already see the roots of law taking root in the lack of household responsibility. We’ve tried graphics, incentives, and penalties – nothing works. I worry about what kind of adult he will become. – Anonymous

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“My daughter does the dishes, sets the table and makes her bed. She has to remember some tasks, gets a bit messy with others, and may take a while to complete them, but it does. “-Anonymous

“We want our teenage son to understand what it takes to do his part in a life situation, like with college roommates. Over the years he has improved in performing household chores, but we still have to remind him to take out the garbage and recycling, and to do his own laundry. He likes to help most of the time, but his oppositional side is obvious when told to do something. – heater

“Our 6 year old makes his bed, puts dirty clothes in the basket, takes out the trash and helps set and clear the dinner table. He’s actually the most collaborative of his siblings, probably because chores provide some structure he dreams of. “- Anonymous

“My son hides the dishes to avoid washing them. He will lie about feeding the animals and “forget” to help with the plants, even if he has been told to do so immediately in advance. – Anonymous

Consistency is the key. If my boys with ADHD get a break from their housework, it’s much harder to get them to cooperate again. – Anonymous

“My son has regular housework. His job is to empty the trash, empty the dishwasher and take out the recycling. When asked to complete the various chores, he responds as if it is the first time he has heard of this chore.. He says: ‘EMPTY THE BIN? SHOULD I?'” – Celestial

“The only strategy that gets my son to do his chores is run against the clock and be timed. I have to admit my ADHD would love to join him in the race, and sometimes I do! – Will

“My 15-year-old does his own laundry, takes out recycling and trash, and puts away clean dishes. On weekends it clean the bathroom and vacuum the bedrooms, but he’s been getting more and more provocative lately. – Anonymous

“My 10 year old son is a great help. He regularly unloads the dishwasher and takes out the trash. He is also involved in many other projects around the home, such as cooking dinner together and cooking his own meals for breakfast and lunch. I’m thankful that he likes to help and doesn’t complain a lot. – Renee

“Our children have virtually no chores because it is such a headache to get them to do any kind of housework. It doesn’t happen or causes a lot of arguments. “- Anonymous

Household chores: next steps

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