After a tiring day at work, it’s nice to come back to a spotless house (or step out of your home office) and moan luxuriously while sinking into your couch while grabbing the TV remote from its well-placed basket.
After a tiring day at work, it’s nice to come back to a spotless house (or step out of your home office) and moan luxuriously while sinking into your couch while grabbing the TV remote from its well-placed basket. Tasty snacks magically appear next to your arm, and maybe a giant, steaming cup of tea or coffee too. A delicious dinner later, you spend time chatting with friends or reading a book before going to bed and disappearing under freshly laundered sheets.
You’re not worried about the morning because you know you’ll wake up with hot coffee and breakfast, and a freshly ironed suit waiting for you in the closet for work the next day.
Although I’ve carefully avoided mentioning gender, I think it’s more than obvious that we’re not talking about a woman’s everyday life here. For women, whether they are stay-at-home moms or senior executives in a multinational corporation, the day unfolds very differently.
By the time he gets up in the morning, she’s already finished planning not only her day, but hers as well. She doesn’t have the luxury of getting up late because the housekeeper will arrive at a certain time.
She has to dry the clothes from last night’s wash, isolate a batch of clothes for the dhobi which is coming soon with a batch of freshly ironed sets, which have to be sorted and matched and placed in cupboards, and there is still planning and prepare meals. ended. By the time he leaves for work or starts his day at his well-organized home workspace, she’s already been up for hours, completely exhausted and juggling work phone calls and emails while chopping onions for that curry he loves so much.
And it’s a day that doesn’t consider children, pets, parents, guests, or health issues.
Although he may think we’re exaggerating, she knows that’s the sad reality for the majority of women, herself included. In fact, many men, even loving husbands and doting fathers, will find this surprising.
According to a third-party investigation, 7 out of 10 women say that their partner helped them at the start of the confinement, but also that they stopped helping later. This same survey suggests that while 80% of women agree that their partners know how to do household chores, their partners choose not to participate.
The uncomfortable truths don’t end there. 77% of women believe they should adapt their schedule to their husband’s wishes and 73% of men agree that they would do their share of the work if they stayed with other men. It’s easy to see that most men just don’t seem to see or treat women as equals and end up taking them for granted.
Ariel, with her #ShareTheLoad campaign, has been working for years to challenge this inequality and spark conversation around her. A marriage is a partnership of equals, after all, and it’s important that he understands that his time is as valuable as his.
#SharingTheLoad isn’t just about helping with household chores, it’s about accepting joint responsibility – not just for yourself, but for the people you care about.
Small things go a long way to building a more equal and caring partnership. He could just pay more attention to his partner’s needs, wash up after him, understand that she wants to sink into that couch just as much as he does. Getting up early himself to help set the table for breakfast, or learning to operate the washing machine and help in the kitchen is not a chore or a favor, it is a responsibility that comes with the being part of a family.
What if we all did our part to make things fairer? When we #SeeEqual, we are effectively sharing equality. #ShareTheLoad!
This article is written by Studio18 on behalf of Ariel.